{"id":969,"date":"2018-01-30T10:16:45","date_gmt":"2018-01-30T18:16:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/xal.li\/eri\/?p=969"},"modified":"2018-01-30T10:40:28","modified_gmt":"2018-01-30T18:40:28","slug":"this-is-how-they-get-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/xal.li\/eri\/everything\/this-is-how-they-get-you\/","title":{"rendered":"This Is How They Get You"},"content":{"rendered":"
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“I’m lost.”<\/p><\/div>\n

Okay, let’s break it down.<\/span><\/p>\n

The most primal and basic unit of social organization is the parent-child bond. The parenting instinct. Then there is the slightly more secondary need for a child to support the parent as the individual approaches maturity so that the parent can produce more siblings. Then a parent-like caring for younger brothers and sisters so that they can live to maturity. Then a caring for nieces and nephews, and grandchildren, and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n

Organisms that experiences these urges for family care have a much better chance to have their genes passed along, outside of extraordinary personal genetic fitness, than those who do not. These are the urges that balance personal survival against the survival of the group. The ones that encourage personal sacrifice and loyalty in exchange for past sacrifices made on your behalf as a child, and the promise of loyalty to you in the future. Some minimal amount of mutuality, based on who needs it more. A sharing of burdens and resources.<\/span><\/p>\n

The tribe is the next larger unit. Your know your tribal breeding population is made up of family members, some close, some more distant. Political strife begins to occur as families compete for dominance within the tribe, for better access to food and shelter, for elevated breeding privileges. But when there is a threat to your tribe from the outside, you fight for your tribe.<\/span><\/p>\n

And next you have your community of tribes, more tolerated than loved, and kept around for exchanging maturing juveniles to prevent the horrors of prolonged inbreeding, each in subtle competition with the others, so that perceived elevation in tribal status draws the best candidates for sexual transfer from the other tribes.<\/span>1<\/sup><\/span><\/p>\n

This is basic baboon stuff. We are primates after all. As the <\/span>Chinese Crested Dog<\/span><\/a> is to a wolf, we are the weak, body-naked, pouf-of-hair-on-top, tongue-lolling, shivering-in-a-sweater embarrassment to our remaining cousins in the Great Apes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Every human organization — every cult, every religion, every club, every company, every gang, every military unit, every fraternity or sorority, every political party — <\/span>every<\/span><\/i> organization that survives does so by <\/span>co-opting one or more levels of the familial-tribal-community bonds<\/span><\/i>, by making us form physical neural associations with those built-in bonds through verbal language or body language or the more intimate language of pats and grips and hugs of mammalian oxytocin-releasing human contact, and demanding that these proffered strangers be treated as close family, with known roles and rules of interaction between members. Known roles, plus those two or three more insidious piggy-backed rules from the Creed or the membership booklet or employee handbook….<\/span><\/p>\n

The point of vulnerability for being inducted, in every case, is a lost-and-alone state of alienation and the attendant feelings of exposure and endangered access to critical resources — when you are down and lonely and poor and sick and need help and comfort. And continued membership is enforced with threats of the ultimate social punishment for noncompliance and misbehavior — expulsion, the removal of the membership component of your individual identity, ostracism, and the potential future identification as an enemy of the group. A return to that agonizing lost and lonely and broke\/broken state. And then possible attack on the other side of that.<\/span><\/p>\n

And then there’s <\/span>depression<\/span><\/a>.<\/span>2<\/sup><\/span><\/p>\n

A tendency to depression is anything but a survival trait for an individual, and I’m sure we all have a curiosity concerning how it gets passed down, but, see, it’s a survival trait for a family or tribe. It is a survival trait for a family to breed members who can be useful, but if the circumstances don’t allow them to be useful, they can lay down and die on demand. If your family, or tribe, or community, or an artificial surrogate for any of the above, declares you to be a worthless burden, it is a survival trait <\/span>for them<\/span><\/i> to be able to tell you to lay down and die and stop consuming resources the rest of the group needs — for you to die without fighting, risking injury to a more valuable member of the tribe. <\/span><\/p>\n

For you to volunteer to feed the circling predators. For you to sacrifice yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Which makes depression, like addiction, a social disease.<\/span>3,4<\/sup><\/span><\/p>\n

Our own families can be a bit of a let-down sometimes. They are our first line of defense against crushing and frequently murderous social isolation, where we can make the mistake of letting disapproval cause debilitating distance. And that’s leaving out the fact that some family relationships can turn so toxic that we have to create that break ourselves. But frankly that’s just (occasionally lethal) primate familial wear and tear. A disease of a different order.<\/span><\/p>\n

Where I’m going with this is that if someone who is not your flesh-and-blood relation calls you brother or sister, and they are merely co-members of an organization that you have joined, then your basic primate familial connectivity protocols have been infected by an organizational parasite that is using these bonds to create a super-organism that can use you and discard you like you use and discard cells.<\/span><\/p>\n

Like with many parasites, it <\/span>could<\/span><\/i> be beneficial, or at least not actively malign. But, like with most parasites, that’s not the way to bet. Look for an emphasis on <\/span>being a team player<\/span><\/i>, on the extent to which personal risk and self-sacrifice is rewarded or even worshiped (coded in terms of <\/span>glory<\/span><\/i> and <\/span>honor<\/span><\/i>), and \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 look in the nearest gutter for your fallen “brothers” and “sisters”. Because an actual family (or a decent family-surrogate) takes care of its non-earners — children, the sick, the elderly, the retired, the crippled — and in a day where <\/span>there are no wolves<\/span><\/i> does not throw anyone to the wolves. In a day where <\/span>there is enough food for everyone<\/span><\/i> will not make someone lay down and cry themselves to death so that the healthier children and laborers can eat.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well. Some actual families <\/span>do<\/span><\/i> do that. You should get well away from those, too.<\/span><\/p>\n

I look at companies that kick out their longest-serving employees to prevent paying them the worth of their experience, that exile them before retirement and pensions become mandatory, and I see a vicious parasite. I look at cults that shun the members that question their authorities, and I see parasites. I see the US military branches and the suicide rates among their veterans, I know them to be parasites. (If they cared about how their soldiers end up, they should stop accepting new oaths of service until things are fixed.) I see the police and how they are turned into angry dogs and pitted against racial “undesirables”, and I <\/span>know<\/span><\/i> they have been infected. Infected and <\/span>armed<\/span><\/i>. I see gangs that turn the lonely into soldiers and use them up so that the big dogs at the top can rake in money, and I see the same kind of parasite that infects Wall Street to chew up MBAs. I see political parties with the exact same memetic markers.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I see these organizations competing with one another for resources for themselves and expending humanity in the scuffles like we spend cash for dinner.<\/span><\/p>\n

I see parasites the Centers for Disease Control and the World Health Organization should be studying with an eye toward isolation and eradication.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you have become infected by one of these organizations, you give up the power to them, to use you, to discard you, and to <\/span>crush you down until you feel like dying<\/span><\/i> because of the way they can pretend to be your family.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just, you know. Keep your eyes open, and try to find your <\/span>real<\/span><\/i> family before the fake ones convince you to lay down and die because you’re not useful to them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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1<\/sup><\/span> \u00c2\u00a0Cf. <\/span>The Selfish Gene<\/span><\/i>, Richard Dawkins.<\/span><\/p>\n

2<\/sup><\/span> \u00c2\u00a0Seriously: https:\/\/suicidepreventionlifeline.org\/ . Or on Twitter, @800273TALK . It’s okay if you need some help.<\/span><\/p>\n

3<\/sup><\/span> \u00c2\u00a0Before you hit up the infamous Rat Park stories on addiction and social isolation, be aware that there are plenty of actual relevant-to-human studies, with better controls and less serious flaws, that point to social isolation as being a huge factor in human struggles with addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n

4<\/sup><\/span> \u00c2\u00a0And before you go whizzing away on the idea that depression is all in your head, with no physical medical component, please remember that your brain is, for the sake of an oversimplified analogy, a computer made out of meat, and that “programming” is represented by physical reconfiguration of said meat, and that means medication works. You can’t cure everything with a hug.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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